Wednesday, December 31, 2014

Living without Regrets but with Reason

How many times do we say “I regret doing that” or “I regret not doing that”. How often do we look back on our lives and thinking “I should have rather done that” or “I wish I didn’t do that”. This way of thinking drags our spirit down, making us feel unhappy and depressed. 

 We can’t help thinking about our past and having regrets, but the secret is to change the way you view your regrets or mistakes. No decision you’ve made is a mistake. The mistakes you’ve made in the past is just a way to change the course of your life. Each one of us has a purpose to fulfill. You might not know what it is yet, but the mistakes we’ve made changed the course of our lives, bringing us closer to fulfill our divine purpose in life. 

 Replace the word “Regret” with “Reason”. When you look back on your past, don’t regret your decisions, but try to discover what the reasons are for those decisions. You will realize that each “mistake” you’ve made has a reason to it. A failed marriage could mean that the person you were with, might have hold you back from the life you were meant to live. That promotion you didn’t get at work, means that it was not meant to be. You have a higher purpose in life – analyze each “mistake” and you’ll find the reason why. 

 Where you are right now is where you are meant to be. Your “mistakes” guided you to where you are now. All the heartache and pain you’ve experienced is the key to your purpose in life. Every disappointment makes us grow stronger, equipping us to help others. See your past as your schooling – the more pain and struggle you experience – the stronger you’ll get to fulfill your purpose.

Remember, nothing happens to you but happens for you. There is a reason why things happened to you and your duty is to discover the reason. 

 There are no regrets, just reasons.

Saturday, December 27, 2014

Money makes us poor

In modern society our success is measured in how much money we have. Money gives people the sense of entitlement, the more money we have, the bigger our ego gets. The root to all unhappiness is money. Millions of marriages end up in divorce because of the lack of money or too much of it. People lose their humanity because of money, it becomes their sole driving force in life. Money becomes people’s god, they spend all their time trying to make money or thinking about money.
But money can’t buy you happiness or any other virtue. Money makes us blind to the important things in life, like love, happiness and compassion. We get so caught up in our daily grind to make a living that we forget to live life. The quest for money makes us spiritually poor, we don’t take time to think about life and to discover our purpose in life because out whole being is consumed by the love of money.
There are still societies in the world that live without money. In modern terms they are poor, but spiritually they are the richest people in the world. The live a humble life, but they are happy. They all work together to help each other, they have a strong bond with their families and they love one another. These societies take time out to practice their spiritual traditions and to become better people. Money has no value to them, their wealth is measured by their love and compassion for each other.
Unfortunately we need money to survive in modern society. But that is all money should be to us, to survive, to put food on the table, to put clothes on our bodies and to put a roof over our heads. That is all money should be to us, just a means to survive. We should use our time to enrich our lives with the spiritual virtues. Our lives will be filled with love and peace if we have compassion for others and by helping others, we will have a rich soul. We will experience a happiness that no money can buy us.

The daily grind to make money consumes our time. It makes us numb to our spiritual needs. Time is a precious commodity and we have to use it wisely. 
We should use our time to enrich our lives and not try to get rich.

Thursday, December 18, 2014

Discovering your authentic self

The key to a blissful life filled with love and peace is to live a life true to yourself. With the conditioning of modern society and the pressures of our daily grind to make a living, our minds get consumed by the lifestyle society expects from us. Where we live, what car we drive, what clothes we wear, what we eat, how we behave is all determined by society’s standards. To be truly free, we have to release ourselves from society’s expectations.
The only way to discover your true self and to receive direction in our lives is to clear our minds from all our worries and anxieties. A simple life, free from all the complications of modern society, will enable us to live a joyful life. To attain clarity on the path we have to follow, we need to fill our minds with positive energy and to the only way to achieve this, is to take time out of our busy lives, surround us with nature and meditate on what really makes us happy.
Meditation is the most powerful practice in the world. There are many things in life that are beyond our control. However, it is possible to take responsibility for our own states of mind – and to change them for the better. Meditation is the most important thing we can do and it is the only real antidote to our own personal sorrows, and to the anxieties, fears, hatreds, and general confusions that beset the human condition.
Meditation is a means of transforming the mind. Meditation practices are techniques that encourage and develop concentration, clarity, emotional positivity, and a calm seeing of the true nature of things. By engaging with a particular meditation practice you learn the patterns and habits of your mind, and the practice offers a means to cultivate new, more positive ways of being. With regular work and patience these nourishing, focused states of mind can deepen into profoundly peaceful and energized states of mind. Meditation has a transformative effect and can lead to a new understanding of life.
There are many different meditation techniques, but all meditation has one common goal – to rid our minds of fears and anxieties, to bring us to a state of calmness and peace and when our minds our calm, intuitive revelations on how we should live our lives will manifest itself. If you’re new to meditation, start off slowly, remember it is a process. Start off by taking just a few minutes in the morning for yourself. Find a quiet place, where you won’t be disturbed and just concentrate on your breathing. Imagine on every inward breath that you’re inhaling peace and happiness and every outward breath that you’re exhaling al your fears, anxieties and darkness in your life.

From this simple start you will naturally progress to a deeper form of meditation and you will receive clarity on the path you should follow. You will discover your purpose in life and what you should do to make this world a better place for every living creature.

Saturday, December 13, 2014

Each one of use has a purpose in life and our goal is to discover and live it

How many times do we feel or hear from others that life is getting to me. The perception of most people is that life is just too much, too complicated.  The way we live our lives is the cause of all unhappiness, depression, drugs, suicide, divorces and even murder.
Modern society is all about money, because the law of modern society is that with money you buy your happiness, your love and your peace. But money is the root to a dysfunctional life. It is all about ego, image and materialistic possessions. We were taught to measure out self-worth according to the materialistic laws of society. From early in our lives were are conditioned to believe that we can only be happy if we are successful in our careers and earn a lot of money. And it never ends, the more you have, the more you want. Because with each materialistic goal you reach, the fulfillment is short lived and we move on to an even higher materialistic goal, for there’s always someone who’s got more than you.
The pursuit of happiness by accumulating materialistic possessions is the biggest lie of modern society. The belief is that the more you own, the happier you would be. That is so wrong! We all know the saying: “Money can’t buy you happiness”. So why devote your whole life to money? What does it really mean to have a fancy house our driving a luxury car? In our modern society nobody cares about what you have or who you are – everybody just cares about themselves. There is no community of loving people enjoying each other’s company and sharing inspiration for life. Every person is just out there for their own gain.
People are unhappy with their lives because they don’t have more money. This causes depression and pushes people to suicide and drugs. Most marriages end up in divorce because of money.
So the answer is so simple. Remove money as your driving force and goal in life.
The secret to a happiness, love and peace, is to find your purpose in life. Each one of us was put on earth to fulfill a task. And only when you release yourself from the day to day grind of making money and instead take time for yourself, you’ll never discover your purpose in life. Each one of us has a different purpose, our own purpose is defined by what suffering and pain we experienced in our lives. The secret is to grow and learn from your pain and to help others suffering the same pain. To encourage and help those people though their difficult times.
When you discover and live your purpose in life, you’ll experience heavenly love, peace and happiness. Your life will be complete, no more chasing after materialistic idols, but pursuing happiness by helping others, help other people to be happy and make them feel accepted by others. You can’t have what you don’t give. If you want love, show love to others and your life will be filled with love. If you want happiness, fill other’s lives with happiness and your life will overflow with happiness.

When you free yourself from the conditioning of modern society and the chase after money, you will experience the ultimate peace. You will be at peace with yourself, your circumstances and be at peace that you’ve made the world a better place by fulfilling your calling or purpose. 

Saturday, December 6, 2014

Why do I have to endure so much Suffering and Emotional Pain

All of us endure some kind of suffering or pain in our lives. Some people more than others, but the secret is that the bigger your pain and suffering is, the bigger your purpose in life is. Everything in life happens for a reason. So don’t complain about your bad situation, but grow from it.

Bad things happen in our lives to redirect us to the path we have to follow. When we are on the wrong path, something bad will happen to take us off that path. Sometimes a bad situation or emotional pain lasts for a long time and is not necessary just a single event that took place. We must see suffering as a blessing as it enable us to grow as a person, to become stronger and wiser. It gives you the opportunity to look at your life objectively, to analyze it and find the answer to what our purpose in life is. Your suffering is your tool to help other people with their pain. Remember, whatever happened to you, also happened to millions of other people and by growing strong through your own suffering, you can guide other people to their purpose.

Suffering sets us free from a conventional lifestyle and takes us closer to an authentic life, a life of freedom. Through suffering and pain, we will discover our purpose and passion in life, it will guide us on our path of a new way of living.

Count yourself lucky if you experience emotional pain and suffering, because you will grow from it, take a different path than the one your one now and you will live a fulfilling life. Consider pain and suffering as a blessing for through it you will realize your purpose in the world. You will discover the reason for living.

Always remember that Everything in Life Happens for a Reason and we have to learn and grow from it.

Sunday, November 30, 2014

1) About Messengers of The Way

Messengers of The Way is a community of people  following The Way of living an authentic life, a life filled with love and inner-peace, a life free from the conditioning and expectations of society. We invite you to join us on this journey of self-discovery and freedom.

Messengers of The Way is not affiliated to any religion, but teaches the principles found in all religion and philosophy. We will show you The Way to live a life filled with all the virtues you were born with, but lost over time due to the conditioning and influence of society. 

Our teachings are based on the 11 virtues to live an authentic life - the life you were meant to live before it got contaminated by society.  

On this journey with us, you’ll discover the true meaning of life and what your purpose is. You will receive the answers to what the reason is for all your suffering. You will understand why you had to endure all the heartbreaks and disappointments and how to use whatever you’ve experienced, to fill the lives of other people with hope and peace. 

Saturday, November 29, 2014

2) The Path to a Blissful Life, is to be True to Yourself

Living a congruent life is when you act in direct accordance with your dreams, desires, beliefs, values, mission and goals. You do not let the words or thoughts of others affect your approach to the world. 

You take your own unique path paved by the understanding of yourself, what it is you stand for and are passionate about adding to this world and setting your life up so that you can act in line with these beliefs on a daily basis.

All human beings are born with inherited virtues. Virtues are positive traits or qualities deemed to be morally good and thus is valued as a foundation of principle and good moral being. 

To live a congruent life we have to free ourselves from the conditioning of society and regain our authentic self. The only way to achieve this, is to find our true self through meditation, prayer or contemplation. 

Friday, November 28, 2014

3) The Eleven Virtues of The Way

On our spiritual journey of self-discovery, our heart and soul will reconnect with the eleven pure virtues of mankind, which will empower us to live a blissful life. 

No virtue holds a higher importance than the other, but all virtues manifests through pure Love, which is love flowing through the spirit and not led by emotions.

The eleven virtues to attain a blissful and enlightened life, a life of absolute freedom, are:
# Love
# Joy

To live a life radiating these virtues, you first need to study the authentic meaning of each individual virtue. Following this first step of learning, we will guide you through the second step on how to live each individual virtue, how to make it part of your being. We will show you how to live the life you were meant to live, before it got contaminated and corrupted by society's conditioning and influence. 

Thursday, November 27, 2014

4) Virtue #1 – Love

What is Love?

There are many kinds of love. Love can be grouped into two main categories:

·  Emotional Love manifests through our emotions and liking a person, but emotions change and so does the love manifesting through it. All people experience emotional love, but this kind of love won’t set us free and won’t ignite the other virtues in our heart and soul.

Emotional Love can be divided into three kinds of love:

i)      Affection - Is fondness through familiarity (a brotherly love), especially between family members or people who have otherwise found themselves together by chance.

ii)     Philia  - Is the love between friends. Friendship is the strong bond existing between people who share common interest or activity.

iii)    Eros – Is romantic love -  'being in love' or 'loving' someone and usually have a sexual connotation

·   Agape (Spiritual Love) is the love that brings forth caring regardless of the circumstance. Agape is a spirit-led unconditional love, irrespective if we like a person or not. It is not a feeling, it's a motivation for action that we are free to choose or reject. Agape is a sacrificial love that voluntarily suffers inconvenience, discomfort, and even death for the benefit of another without expecting anything in return.

When you reach this purest form of love, you’ll be set free from all earthly self-gratification and it will enable you to live the life you were meant to live.

Agape (Spiritual Love) gives birth to all other virtues. When your heart and spirit is filled with love, all other virtues will manifest themselves, for all goodness, kindness and compassion towards mankind is a direct result of Agape. 

Wednesday, November 26, 2014

5) Virtue #2 – Humbleness

Humility oftentimes conjures up images of weakness, submissiveness, and fear. But this is a false idea of humility. Real humility is a sign of strength, authentic confidence, and courage. 

To really love others, you must express humbleness. Humility can’t be cultivated or developed, it is probably one of the most difficult virtues to attain. Pride is the exact opposite of humility and because pride is instilled in us from a very young age, it became part of our thinking, our whole being.

Our life as it is now, consists of competing. Competing for a better job, a better house, more money, better clothes, our whole existence revolves around always trying to get to the next materialistic goal, in order for us to feel proud of ourselves and the hunger for recognition from others. And failing to achieve these materialistic goals, results in unhappiness and depression.

Humility is the absence of pride. Pride functions only when comparing others to yourself. Don’t base your self-worth on how you stack up to others. Instead, focus on living a life of your authentic self. “True humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less”

Messengers of The Way is a community of equals – we don’t see ourselves as better or as worse than others. When we are all equal, then there’s no place for pride in our lives. 

Our community serves each other and we break down the barriers that separate people and put the rich over the poor, the able-bodied over the disabled, the literate over the illiterate, the strong over the weak.

The path to your authentic self is paved with humility.

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

6) Virtue #3 – Compassion

Compassion as the virtuous desire to alleviate the sorrow and difficulties of others by putting forth whatever effort necessary to help people in pain. A compassionate person treats all living beings as one's own self, wanting the welfare and good of the other living being and when everyone's suffering is seen as one's own suffering. 

Sympathy should not be confused with Compassion. Although sympathy is the first step to compassion, sympathy is feeling or emotion you experience. Compassion is the action you take to alleviate another living being’s pain. Compassion is the action of putting sympathy into practice. By placing one's mind in other's favor, thereby seeking to understand the other from their perspective and after we observed and understood the pain and suffering in others, taking action to help them through their trying times.

Genuine compassion is not based on expectations, but on the happiness of others - irrespective of whether another person is a close friend or an enemy, as long as that person wishes for peace and happiness and wishes to overcome suffering, then on that basis we develop a genuine concern for his or her problems and do whatever is required to help such a person, without expecting anything in return.

Expressing compassion fills people’s lives with happiness and by doing so, you fill your own soul with an abundance of joy.

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion”
Dalai Lama

Monday, November 24, 2014

7) Virtue #4 – Kindness

Kindness is more than being capable of being sympathetic and compassionate.

Kindness is more than compassion. The very of nature of kindness to another person makes that person have a sense of worth and usefulness. By exhibiting kindness to another person we are affirming their worth as a person, we are telling them that they are important to us. Kindness is being generous, friendly, or warm-hearted. It means having a kind and gentle nature.

Kindness is a language the dumb can speak and the deaf can hear and understand. When we understand other people and can walk in their shoes, we will treat them with kindness also, we will make them feel worthy.

When practicing kindness, people show an understanding for others and treat them with respect. Kindness involves doing thoughtful deeds for people who are in need. It often means putting other people's feelings before your own.

Sunday, November 23, 2014

8) Virtue #5 ~ Inner-Peace

Inner-peace is a state of being mentally or spiritually at peace, with enough knowledge and understanding to keep oneself strong in the face of discord or stress.

Inner-peace free us from the effects of stress, it is a state of consciousness or enlightenment. Inner-peace can only be experienced by knowing yourself and living an authentic life, true to your beliefs and morals. 

To attain inner-peace, we must have peace of mind, we must be at peace with our circumstances and accept the things we can’t change in the world – not to worry about what other people think of us or about all the bad things that is happening in the world. Change the things you can change, help the world be a better place by loving all people and don’t waste your energy on things out of your control. 

Remind yourself on a daily basis that everything happens for a reason. You might not understand it now, but be at peace with it, for further down your path of self-discovery you will discover the answers to why things happened in your life.

Inner-peace will free you from the regrets of the past and the worries of the future. Accept yourself for who you are, make peace with yourself, because inner-peace will bring you the love and blissful life you deserve.

Saturday, November 22, 2014

9) Virtue #6 ~ Joy

Joy or Bliss, arises from peace, equanimity, stability, detachment, renunciation, absence of desires, contentment, devotion, love, and liberation. Life is full of suffering. Yet for those who are caught in the phenomenal world, it is possible to experience eternal bliss or joy.

Joy is a state of freedom. From freedom comes supreme bliss. Hence the best means to experience joy is being liberated. In their ordinary consciousness human beings are incapable of experiencing pure joy because of the interference of the mind and the senses and the attachment of the ego with the sense objects. From the activity of the senses arises attachment and from attachment comes anger and from anger comes delusion and from delusion suffering, which is opposite of joy.

The purpose of religious and spiritual activity is to turn the mind away from the sensory objects and inwards so that both the mind and the ego can be dissolved in an endless state of joy or bliss. Each religion attempts to address it in its own way by suggesting distinct solutions. Whatever may the means they prescribe, the goal of all these religions is always the same, release from the cycle of births and deaths, disease, attachment and suffering. 

Pure bliss is a state of mind, you can decide to be joyful, irrespective of your circumstances. The difference between happiness and joy is that your happiness is determined by your senses, what you feel, smell, taste and see. Joy or Bliss is a way of living, it is a way of enduring all suffering with the knowledge that through each bad experience you grow as a person and your mind is moving closer to a state of complete and pure bliss.

Friday, November 21, 2014

10) Virtue #7 ~ Patience

Adopt the pace of nature, her secret is patience and that patience can improve life and bring it closer to perfection, if you understand nature and work with it patiently.

Nature exhibits patience in various forms. Considering the growth of seeds into trees- when we plant a seed and water it, it slowly turns into a flower and then into a fruit. The seed had to be planted, watered, and then be given time to grow into what it is meant to be.

Without prior efforts and in absence of planting or watering or the nurturing the seed would not have sprung above the surface. It could not develop into its current form without all that patience, time and efforts.

In order to be able to achieve complete freedom and peace within ourselves - we have to practice patience. Patience is different from waiting. instead we have to do the work first, lay the foundation, plant the seed, make sure the soil is right prepare get ready and then wait for all the elements to come into place before making the right decision that will enable us to live an authentic life, a life filled with love, peace and joy.

Thursday, November 20, 2014

11) Virtue #8 ~ Forgiveness

The ability to truly forgive others who had wronged us is essential to live an authentic life. When we have hatred in our hearts towards people who hurt by us or spoke badly about us, we will never have complete freedom or peace. 
Forgiveness sets us free from all emotional hurt and turmoil. To forgive is a divine virtue which will enable us to live a joyful life, free from pride and ego.
All major religious traditions and philosophies carry basically the same message, that is love, compassion and forgiveness
To be sincere in our forgiveness of others we should not even remember the incident. Sometimes forgiveness can be conditional, we shall tell somebody we have forgiven them, but maybe later we will bring it up to use it against them. This is not real forgiveness. Only when we do not think about the experience have we really forgiven others.
When we forgive others, we should not feel that we are just doing somebody else a favour; through forgiving others we are helping ourselves immensely. By remembering the misdeeds of others we live in the critical and judgmental mind. However through forgiveness we learn to appreciate the good qualities of others. Through forgiveness we become aware of our extended reality.
On the cross Jesus Christ spoke these words:

“Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.”

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

12) Virtua #9 ~ Truthfulness

Generally Truthfulness is understood merely to mean that we must speak the Truth. But we the word Truth in a much wider sense. There should be truth in thought, truth in speech, and truth in action. To the man who has realized this truth in its fullness, nothing else remains to be known , because all knowledge is necessary included in it. What is not included in it is not truth, and so not true knowledge; and there can be no inward peace without true knowledge. 
If we once learn how to apply this never failing test of Truth, we will at once able to find out what is worth doing, what is worth seeing, what is worth reading.
Where there is Truth, there is also is knowledge which is true. Where there is no Truth, there can be no true knowledge.  And where there is true knowledge, there is always bliss and peace. There sorrow has no place. Truth is eternal and so is the bliss derived from it.

Devotion to this Truth is the sole justification for our existence. All our activities should be centered in Truth. Truth should be the very breath of our life.

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

13) Virtue #10 ~ Gentleness

Gentleness means recognizing that the world around us is fragile, especially other people. It is recognizing our own capacity to do harm and choosing instead to be tender, soft-spoken, soft-hearted, and careful. When we are gentle we touch the world in ways that protect and preserve it.

Being gentle doesn't mean being weak; gentleness can be firm, even powerful. To behave in a gentle manner requires that we stay centered in our own values and strength. Coming from this center, a gentle word or touch can channel our energy into healing or making peace.

'Gentleness, self-sacrifice and generosity are the exclusive possession of no one race or religion.' ~ Gandhi

Monday, November 17, 2014

14) Virtue #11 ~ Self-Control

All the virtues of a enlightened human being is the fruit of the most important virtue – Spiritual Love. If we don’t live in love, it is impossible to express any other virtue.

The most overlooked virtue of all is the virtue of Self-Control. Self-Control is more than resisting sexual temptation, drugs, alcohol, over eating and all other physical temptations. We need self-control to live a life expressing all the other 10 virtues. Self-Control is the tool we use to stop us from doing or thinking wrongly.

If we don’t have self-control, it’s easy to hate a person that did us wrong instead of loving that person and to understand that all wrong people do to you is because of their own pain and suffering. Self-Control enable us to do or say or think the right things.

Without Self-Control we will, Hate instead of Love, be Arrogant instead of Humble, be Cruel instead of Compassionate, be Harsh instead of Kind, be Worried instead of being in Peace, be Sad instead of being Joyful, be Impatient, Unforgiving, be Dishonest and have a Cold Soul instead of being Gentle to people.

To conclude, to live a life radiating all the virtues, we need Love to express it and Self-Control not to do the opposite.